Officially entering a new era
It’s been almost 2 months since I’ve started giving facials again and let me tell you - I am ALIVE. I honestly wasn’t expecting to feel so invigorated by it. But here I am, elated and also glad that I was so wrong about any apprehension I had coming back to the treatment room.
IT'S OFFICIAL! Facials are coming to Dallas in April
I waited a really long time to decide whether or not I was going to give facials again.
After my first relocation of the pandemic in June 2020, it was clear that starting a new business with new people in a new environment was the recipe for my body’s official breakdown. I needed to step back and really dive deep into recovery after my endometriosis surgery as well as try to unlearn a lot of habits I had acquired as a business owner, esthetician, and plain old human being. So that’s what I did this last year.
Beauty Burnout
My 34th birthday is coming up on August 27th and I can’t help but think how crazy it is that I’ve been writing this blog since I was 28?? It’s been such a blur I don’t even know. As I reflect on the wild ride that has been 33, aka a move (with another one coming in September), two surgeries, a lot of loss, a semi-permanent break from facials, living with family, an election, being in school for 6+ months, having all my belongings in boxes, and a total re-evaluation of everything in my life - one of the topics that has been on my brain for a while now has been burn out.
Getting uncomfy for healing
Have you ever faced a secret battle in your healing? As a result of this, did you make yourself feel small in order to accommodate the comfort of others? Healing is uncomfortable, to say the least, but it doesn’t have to isolate you from people who want to support you.
When the unexpected happens
Such as life would have it, I am writing to you after another unexpected pause. Many of you have quietly and kindly reached out to me over the past few weeks after noticing an alarming “out on medical leave” note on my Instagram and email away message. Not to get too personal, but I wanted to share some updates on what that was about.
Turning the page...
Over the last 15 years, my views on skin health and how to care for skin have drastically changed.
Redefining Beauty in 2020
To define 2020, we would have to start with what we decided to redefine. Today that’s what I want to discuss. We can describe 2020 as a hot mess, a train wreck, the worst year ever, etc., etc. but really if we look at the greater picture there are certain things that came to light in ways we didn’t anticipate but needed this year. Because we have to admit, most of us grew the parts of us that we were hiding. We faced some of our darkest fears in ways our subconscious would never even let us imagine in our nightmares. We’ve adapted a new language for ourselves and shed beliefs that no longer serve us in our new normal. We are no longer the people we were when we woke up on January 1st of this year. I want to go over the items that were redefined this year. These items defined us as humans, as a society, and it also defined our future.
A TSC recap; A year since my Hayley hiatus
Hi everyone, here we are again just a few days away from my birthday and like many of you, I’m perplexed with where the time has gone. I mean, we are in a pandemic still where we’ve been in quarantine and/or social distancing for the better part of 5 months so maybe that’s it. It’s interesting to end up here again and be in a completely different place than I anticipated. Usually, I have some foresight as to what’s going to happen because I’m intentional in setting goals for myself, my business, and my family. Especially with 32. Why? Well, if you don’t recall, I took a monthlong hiatus last year starting on my birthday. Let me recap the year and bring you along for the lessons I had to learn the hard way and some of the blessings that I never expected.
Reflecting on my time in LA
Over the last 2 months since our move to Oregon, I've been processing a lot of heaviness and uncertainty. This processing has included many physical symptoms such as total body pain and aches, crying fits out of nowhere, and the overwhelming feeling like I made a huge mistake waking me up midway through the night. I’m now in a position where I’ve felt a good chunk of my feelings and am ready to talk about them. Many of you have been so curious about what things are looking like for me and it’s time I give you a proper update.
California Love! Esthetician referrals 💌
Moving to Oregon during a pandemic was, as you can imagine, a very stressful endeavor. I’m grateful to finally be able to start settling into my space and home, but I am well aware that there are plenty of things I left unfinished in California. So here’s my update for all of you wondering what’s next for TSC in Cali.
Alignment is happening.
Alignment is happening.
Since my last blog post, I have received calls, texts, emails, and all sorts of communication of support. My heart has swelled with the loving energy I’ve received and absolutely didn’t expect from that particular post. When I wrote my last blog, it was so cathartic that I almost forgot about it after I hit publish. The experience of writing my deepest thoughts and emotions is my greatest form of therapeutic self-care so I do it for the feeling it gives me rather than focusing on potential reader reaction. So it means a lot to me when you all see and hear me for exactly who I am after sharing something so vulnerable like the fear of the unknown.
it's time I come clean...an update on all things TSC
I’m just going to pull the bandaid off and say it; this sucks.
Okay, I’ve been saying that a ton since this started but I feel like each week has added up another piece of bad news that I’m teetering between realism and pessimism only these days. The optimism makes an appearance as needed to keep me going, but all in all - this sucks. Let me have a pity party and tell you why.
A letter to all non-essential workers...
This is the last type of blog I ever thought I’d write but here we are.
It sucks to be labeled as non-essential doesn’t it? As much as I agree with the measures taken to protect our society from COVID-19, I can’t help but feel the anxiousness of what’s to come for all non-essential industries.
Try as I might, I have yet to find one piece of mandated closure information that even lists facialists or spas as part of non-essential businesses that have to close during this type. The beauty industry is left out of the conversation forcing business owners everywhere to make an incredibly difficult choice by themselves. That choice is to label themselves as “non-essential”. I hate even thinking about it because we KNOW in our hearts that we are essential to our clients, and even with all of our training for upholding medical-grade level sanitation, the risk of our exchange is still too high. We know it’s the right thing to do, as painful as it is to not be of service the way we are best during this terrifying time.
2020 skin goals | inclusive beauty
There are so many intentions I have collected from all of you that I’ve been able to digest over the last month of introspective, post-holiday time. As the decade turned, I asked many of you what you were hoping for in 2020 in relation to your skin health. There were many beautiful commitments shared about breaking up with old fear-based beauty beliefs that perpetuate inflammatory habits such as negative self-talk and picking the skin. There were also enlightening commitments to practice love-based care by simply drinking more water or getting more supportive care. I was elated receiving all of the feedback and took a long time to come up with a way that I could help with these resolutions. Here’s what I came up with…